Good or nice?

So what’s the definition of good, and what’s the meaning of nice anyway? And which one has the majority strive for, good or nice or even both? I’m too lazy to look ‘em up, so do it yourself. lol
For me, personally, good doesn’t overlap with the word nice. Both sound pleasing, but both bring different consequences to a matter. I went out with some friends this afternoon and had lunch together at Memories Padungan. We were talking about the conflict that we had among the circle of our friends and decided to, maybe, arrange an outing together with the idea of bringing back the ‘old days’. A friend said that if we were to go out together, she doesnt wish to rise the sensitive issue between the gang or else it would ruin the whole outing thing. I kinda agree to that, since she’s leaving soon and wants at least one more memorable thing to do before she do so.
That put aside, now I’m gonna tell you the other story which linked to the one stated above. I have a friend. A male one. Much older than me but the type of a person that makes you often think, “what-kind-of-a-future-will-he-has”. Pretty much irresponsible who thinks only about himself. Well, he does think about others, but that’s only a ratio of 1:5. Anyway, recently everyone’s pissed at him for he did something wrong. He did not even justify himself even when given a chance to. That’s sorta good since he know he was at the wrong side. He called himself a bastard. Feeling sorry, I messaged him during an outing with a friend (who was very close to this bastard, until the conflict happened). I know I had to talk to him like i’m talking to someone’s much younger than me, since he can’t handle adult and matured talks (sometimes I’m amazed how big this world is. I’m 20 and this is the first time i met such a person, no kidding ya!). I smooth-talked him and successfully persuaded him for an outing together – then maybe I can dig something else out and give him a peace of my mind. Some friends agreed to that, some didnt. Saying he’s a very sensitive person and hurt easily.
I’m perfectly informed of his attitude by now. And, as a friend, I KNOW he has to change. Break free from his little world and start to face the truth instead of living in denial. He has got to stop this self-destructive behaviour and start to see things in a 180-degree perspective now – facing himself, his problems and make an effort to change the way things are. He told me that I’m a motherly and nice friend. Heck, I’m not even close to one. I’m certainly not nice. I’m good though, lol (minus the short-temper and KY attitude). I’ll not even try to be nice (smooth talk excluded) if I’m concerned about him. A nice person would let a friend to stay where he stood, even if it’s bad for him. A nice person would say ‘it’s up to you’ even when it’s clearly bad. I’m referring to F, now that I listened to what happened the other ‘day’ from S. A good person will pinpoint the mistakes her friend have, even if it risk the feelings of the receiver. Well, like they say, even if it’s painful, we just got to pull that cancer out even if it’s painful. Or else, it would be life-threatening.
About F and A, I dont really care if they were together, but i cant see where their relationship is going now that both people are from the same group of people. People who either can’t face their mistakes and pinpointing their mistakes to other people or people who are living a lie. Nay, that wont last long. I dont even have to ‘eat salt’ to know that thing. Both were being nice to each other but not good to each other. Both are only seeking pleasure without discerning between the right and the wrong. The matter of making-the-best-out-of-your-partner is prolly the last thing in their mind. It’s pathetic? Well, in a way it is. I can’t say much since I had this kind of shallow relationships too (but not to the extend it goes outta hand lar)
Back to the main point, when a good person is giving her advice away, it takes another good person to actually receive the advise and use it as much as he/she could. It takes a matured mind to judge itself and make an effort to change its flaws. I mean, I know it’s embarassing when people pinpoint your mistakes (I’m always in that situation too) but I don’t see any reason why you don’t see the good side of the correction. Yeah, pride is one thing. But having pride for holding something stupid is.... well, stupid right? Obviously.
The thing is... just how much I want to be a good friend, it’s no use if the friend that I want to be good to doesn’t want me to infiltrate his hole and pull him out of there. I can give him a piece of my mind, I can give him advises and thats pretty much I can only give. He can accept ‘em or reject ‘em. Well, since he has his own free will and free to decide the way he run life.
Back to what happened in Memories Padungan. Now that when I think about it, we’re facing a friend called A here. I’m not even sure whether I should be nice or good in our next outing. Aiz, being nice is so hard for me. I’ll try, J.